If you were only experiencing these events in isolation, you might see them quite differently. Your brother"s advice – in itself – may be a little irritating, but you could see that it was well-intentioned. Perhaps you might believe that your sister"s tantrum is a one-off and a sign of a bad day. With your family history, however, the slightest reminder of a previous resentment may lead you to feel like you are stuck in an unrelenting Groundhog Day, where past crimes are repeating in an endless loop.